We hate to hear it, and we hate to admit it, but sadly sometimes love just is not enough to make a relationship last.
It is vital, but it is only one piece of the puzzle.
Other crucial pieces must fit together to form a whole.
What is usually overlooked is one obvious thing, that love requires two people – two who strive, who invest equally, and who meet halfway.
We fail in our relationships all the time we think that loving so intensely will be sufficient for two.
It never is. There will always be something missing.
Take a look at the 9 most common reasons your relationship will not work out, even if your feelings are true:
1. Your plans for the future are not the same
He does not see himself married. You cannot imagine yourself living in the countryside.
One of you does not need to have kids and the other cannot think of a future without them.
And no matter how you feel about each other, at some point you will have to face the fact that you will be unhappy if you sign on for a life you do not want.
2. There are trust issues that cannot be resolved.
We all know that relationships are not lasting without trust.
Yet sometimes we try to do our best to restore that trust, to make things work because we care so much about each other and we do not want to let go.
When someone betrays us or makes us doubt them in any way, there is always a seed of doubt that remains permanently implanted that is difficult to get rid of.
Sooner or later you will see that there is no other option but to break up.
3. His family does not accept you
It is a hard pill to swallow because it has nothing to do with the two of you or your love, but ruins your relationship anyway.
There are mothers, for example, who think no one is good enough for their sons.
There are also situations where some family members want to make you look like a bad person.
If he is close and committed to his family and cannot stand up to them when they mistreat him or shut them up when they try to fill his head with nonsense, it will only be a matter of time before they manage to separate you.
4. Every day is more affected than the last.
You pray for a relationship without drama, but it seems impossible.
You and your partner are on each other’s backs 24/7 and you always have new things to argue about or at least discuss at length.
You cannot even remember the last time you had a whole week of peace and harmony.
After a day or two of calm, the storms come again and you are generally speaking sadder than happy.
Despite all the undeniable love you share, you just are not compatible.
You are unable to see things eye to eye and there is probably no chance that you will ever achieve it.
5. “Is he my forever love?” keeps ringing in your head
Some things just do not work in your relationship, no matter how hard you try or how much you invest.
You feel like everything is coming from your side and he is not an active participant.
You love, but you do not know if you have loved the same way and it is slowly killing you.
That is why you are unable to get rid of the feeling that maybe there’s something better.
Trust your gut. The thing is, when we have met our forever love, we do not even wonder, we just know.
Not everything is perfect, but two people who want to stay together and love each other unconditionally is what makes the difference.
6. You can’t bridge the physical distance
Relationships can be difficult. Long-distance relations can be even more challenging.
It is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship when you do not live in the same city, the same country, or even see the same continent.
If you are not planning to live in the same place one day, if neither of you is willing to move, then you are only delaying the inevitable.
You can’t be a long-distance couple forever, can you?
7. Lust is a mysterious impression in your relationship.
Somewhere along the way, the sexual tensions ceased to exist and now you’re just two friends sharing an apartment or preventing each other from ending up alone. It’s not the real deal.
The other possible scenario is that you got into this relationship because you developed strong feelings of friendship for that certain person and you thought the spark would ignite later.
I am sorry to break it to you, but it will never happen.
Chemistry, desire, attraction, and sex are what separate a relationship from friendship, and while they are not the most important components, they play a big role.
8. He is jealous
I believe there’s a fair amount of jealousy in every relationship and that’s more than okay.
It can even be flattering at times. But once that healthy boundary is crossed, a relationship can turn into hell.
If your partner wants to know your every move, gets angry every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex, or accuses you of cheating for no good reason, you can say that he is too jealous and he is mentally suffocating you.
9. He is abusive
This is an unhealthy relationship and you should get out as soon as possible if you find yourself in any kind of abusive situation.
We hear many women say that they love their abuser despite all the mental or physical harm he inflicts on them.
It is really hard to break this unhealthy bond they feel, but the sooner it is done the better.
True love will never hurt you in any way; everything else is a lie.